Has your relationship become a little “stale” in the bedroom? Has it come to scheduling that one day per month for sex as if it were a trip to the grocery store ? Do you want to put the SEX back into your woman’s sex drive? Maybe you need to change that nice to naughty to spice things up. In other words, there is a dirty girl just waiting to reveal her slutty side, now go find her! The question is, how do you achieve this in a healthy, mutually beneficial manner?

Tips for Eliciting Her Kinky Curiosities

First and foremost, let your woman know she is desirable. Sounds pretty basic, eh? Remember flirting? It becomes all but lost in long standing relationships. Take her out on an unscheduled date, maybe a candle lit dinner. Be romantic but give those sexual pheromones wings by complimenting her hair, her eyes and yes, even her ass. Let her know her body is beautiful and alluring. Believe it or not, you are setting the stage for communication. SAY WHAT?! Yes, I said communication. Women have an innate need for deep communication. If you are wondering why, the answer is simple: it helps them feel safe.

Communication is the Key to Summoning Hidden Sexual Desires

When I speak of communication, I am not referring to discussions about the weather or the kids last orthodontist appointment. If you want to summon her nasty girl, you need to ask her about her sexual curiosities. Provocative acts that she has given thought to yet never had the courage to explore. What fantasies lie in wait deep inside like a dirty dark secret? Have fun with the conversation and show her your excitement! Excitement is contagious. Remember this, you are not only helping her to feel safe, you are catapulting her sex drive. Listen to her and be prepared to bring some suggestions to the table that will benefit both partners on this new path of sexual bliss.

Time to Actualize the Inner Slut

After your seductive date and titillating conversation, it is finally time to put words to actions; all the while, still having fun and being flirtatious. Being too serious quickly deflates one’s confidence when trying something new and socially taboo. The idea is to have fun and invite that dirty girl out to play. After dinner, the two of you go home. Now what? It’s not like you have kinky play toys stashed in the bedroom closet. Maybe you start with some whipped cream and chocolate fudge and see where that leads. Possibly, your earlier conversation revealed a hidden desire to role play or engaging in sex in unusual places like the pool table. The goal is the big “O” (again and again)! We naturally want to please our mates. What better way is there to accomplish that desire? As trust and confidences grow, she becomes more adventurous. Before you know it, your woman is out buying delicious lingerie and fuzzy handcuffs. Congratulations, you have unleashed her inner slut!

How Does “Kinky” Contribute to Healthy Relationships?

Many people struggle with insecurities in the bedroom.Let’s face it, it is frightening to allow ourselves to be vulnerable. It is not uncommon to feel the fear of rejection with the very thought of unveiling your true sexual desires. Unfortunately, this cultivates an atmosphere of secrets, mistrust and sexual disatisfaction. Couples grow disinterested in predictable, undeviating love making. It creates a landslide of decreasing intimacy. All that is left in the union is the daily hum-drum. We’ve all seen it. “How was your day Dear?” He goes to his man-cave to read the sports section while you wash the dinner dishes. Isn’t it time to put down that paper and dish rag and reignite your relationship with some sexual excitement?

Studies have found that people who partake in unorthodox sexual practices were on average more confident, as well as extroverted. Their willingness to step out of a pre-established comfort zone made them better lovers. The ability to give voice to your sexual desires makes one more comfortable with your sexuality. It also creates an open dialogue for your partner’s needs to be heard as well.

So what is the lesson here? Being bolder in the bedroom is psychologically beneficial for the individual and thereby makes for a healthier relationship. This imparts trust and communication which is the very foundation of long term partnerships. If you want more tips on kink elicitation and why it is an essential ingredient for a healthy relationship,follow this link: tips for a healthy relationship.

So break those barriers of insecurity! Throw away the anxiety of stepping out of social norms. Take control of your sexual relationship and bring it to a bold new level. Experiment, have fun and for fucks sake, have many, many orgasms.